Practicing Self Control in the Middle of Chaos

In a week full of the highest highs and the lowest lows, I have had to practice patience and self control. The lesson to learn is that there are times in our lives where we go from zero to three sixty in a matter of twenty-four hours and there is nothing we can do about it. This can prove to be tasking and certainly has for me, but it is key to learn how to deal with all of those chaotic moments.

We live in a society that does not allow us to turn our back when times get tough and while some of us try to look away, there are so many things holding us accountable that we simply get sucked back in. We have to learn how to practice self control during these highs and lows.

How to do this? I have some idea, but not a full grasp, so I did a bit of research. Click here for a greater expansion on what I learned. Be mindful, some of the tips in the article may be better tailored to your type of chaos.


  1. Problem focused, emotion focused or avoidant behavior.

These different approaches determine how you handle a situation. The problem is that sometimes you get stuck with problem or emotion focused coping because you simply have no control. Problem focused coping focuses on assessing the problem and taking action. Emotion focused coping focuses on your own emotions and dealing with them. Know where you stand with these coping mechanisms when chaos arises to allow yourself the chance to overcome it quicker or ease your mind of how out of control you actually are.

  1. Become more mindful.

Be aware of your thoughts and feelings. This will help you focus on yourself as opposed to the chaos around you.

  1. Complete your “To-Do” list.

This is sheer personal accountability. In creating a task list, you are planning organized courses of action, rather than simply thinking about what needs to be done.

  1. Know your limits.

Understand when too much is going to be too much. This will help you prevent unnecessary chaos. If it appears you are not going to have enough time to do something, you probably won’t, so the best option is to give something up. You know yourself best.

  1. Avoid the “just one more thing” task.

This goes hand-in-hand with the above tip. Recognize when it’s time to call it quits and continue with your task another time or another day.


Above all else, in these times of chaos don’t lose sight of who you are, because you are the most important!


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