How many times have you shamelessly finished a super-sized #1 from McDonalds, followed by, “Tomorrow is the beginning of a brand new, healthier me.” Said the person with a full belly!
I love hearing people talk about goals and chasing dreams – purpose is what keeps us alive! But, one thing we all have to try as hard as we can to do is to create a big picture and FOCUS on that big picture – accepting that it may take longer than 2 weeks to lose 50 lbs or become a pro-athlete. This is how the cycle typically goes when one creates a goal…
- “Hey guys, guess what?” I’m going to lose 20 lbs before summer hits!
- Day 1: Nothing but fruits and veggies to eat. Day 2: You allow some carbs in because the hunger is a little heavier. Day 3: You allow a “treat” for yourself because you’re so proud of your two days of eating healthier. Day 4: You don’t want to turn down the fun night out with the girls/guys…beer, eating a late night deep-fried snack, etc… Day 5: Goal aborted.
Wouldn’t you agree that’s usually how it does – give or take a few days? Now, that’s just a simple, more short-term example. What if you wanted to start your own business or enter a competitive industry such as pro-sports, television, or music? Here is a fun analogy that may help!
You decide to take on the challenge of building a complex puzzle. You dump out all of the pieces onto your dining room table – you’re ready to take on the challenge! One of the first things you do? Put the puzzle box which has the completed puzzle picture in front of you, so that you can reference it. It’s your blueprint! Then, you organize all of the pieces into categories – the ends of the puzzle, middle pieces, and so forth. So, you’ve got your big picture (goal) in front of you, you’ve prepared yourself (strategy), and now you’re ready to take on the challenge. One thing I’ve learned when trying to build a complex puzzle is that you need a breather from time to time (pace yourself). Maybe it requires leaving the incomplete puzzle on your table over night – just where you left off. Perhaps you need a second set of eyes (accountability/support). Realize it takes trial and error (patience). Sometimes, a piece doesn’t fit the way you thought it would (persistence). Finally, after all is said and done, you have a completed picture – the feeling of accomplishment sets in!
Treat your life goals and dreams this same way. Let’s recap!
- What’s your goal?
- Create a blueprint/strategy
- Pace yourself – allow yourself time to complete your goal before you run yourself into the ground and give up quicker than you started!
- Create a strong support system to surround yourself with and allow someone to be your accountability partner
- Patience, patience, patience! It is very unrealistic to think that a goal or dream will happen “over night”. By accepting the reality of that from the get-go, you have already jumped way ahead of the game!
- Be persistent. “The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places.” – Unknown. Don’t pull over unless you’re just putting your hazards on! No parking.
Finally, the only other key word which I believe is the foundation for everything above: Commitment. Do yourself a favor and define your commitment level before you even begin – because without commitment, you mine as well not even start. Sorry for the bluntness, but it’s the truth!
“Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.” – Anonymous
Let’s make it happen!